Hey darling! You're beautiful! I'm in MN too. Want to chat?
I agree with all of what you said other then UFO wack jobs, There is no reason to think that intelligent life doesn't exist in the near by universe. China and some other governments are now taking it seriously. I worked in federal law enforcement for twenty years. NATO actually has a task force that deals with that issue. My wife and best friend have been witnesses. Several presidents and other government officials have sighted them as well as most astronaunts. I would take that seriously.
Also look up David Deangelo. Begin with his ebook, Dual Your Dating. He trains you a lot about women.